I haven’t been able to shake a conversation I had last week. In an online writer’s group, someone asked me which of his eight writing topics seemed most compelling. We ended up diving deep into one—men’s vulnerability.
We talked about how men often don’t share the same kinds of personal details women do. For women, talking about bad dates, therapy, and crying about it all can seem totally normal. But for many men, those topics don't even come to mind.
That led me to wonder: if men talked more openly about therapy, trauma, or awkward dates, would that actually make them more vulnerable?
After some reflection, we agreed—no. Because vulnerability isn’t just sharing; it’s taking a risk.
Days later, I couldn’t stop thinking: When was the last time I truly put my heart on the line? When did I take a real risk?
Most days, I jot down little thoughts—tiny insights, fleeting ideas—thinking I’ll turn them into something meaningful someday. But I rarely do.
It feels too risky to share them right away. What if I change my mind? What if I learn something new that reshapes my perspective?
In truth, I overthink it.
So this week, I’m posting this as a reminder to myself—and maybe to you too: Great work demands vulnerability. And vulnerability demands risk.
Thanks for reading. See you next week!
…wild how much fear from and of ourselves shapes the actions we take…i’ve been sitting on about 100 things “i just can’t” because “who da faw knows”…but likely that V word…will heed your message…it is an excellent reminder to make use of all our parts, not just the deliberate pieces…
"In truth, I overthink it." <-- This, SO MUCH this. Thank you for this reminder! Will keep this message in mind <3